Hundreds of times I've been asked questions on the talk shows or events to talk about what it takes for a child to gain life. Basically, people were asking for a step by step guide how the needs of the child to be fair, while in the direction of a life of success early lead instead of long-term failure. It is a great question, but since every child is different and every family has different challenges to overcome in the different stages of life, there is no 100% time-tested answer tothis question. That's not bad news, it's only life, but there is some good news when you want a safe bet solution to create strong, healthy children who come from the advice that psychologist James Dobson once said to me, "regardless how hard you try, your kids could still break all the rules and break your heart in the process as to their knees and pray to stay hard! "
Here's a simple formula that parenthood will help you grow your children up to mature and develop greater strength in each set canStage of life. I call them the necessity of the formula, because it must necessarily take the word of magic with the four major parenting strategies for positive change for children or young people in your life. Another important element is that the formula you need to keep on the right path to bring such a well-balanced parents committed the most of your children without overindulging, over-protection or control is about your children.
Here are the four basic parenting strategies are, your child needs tobe successful.
N-feeding
To raise a child are required from all of the basics to survive on this planet, including food, shelter, clothing, footwear, providing care and education, from dressing how to make everything yourself, tie your own shoes, brushing your Good to know your teeth and how to work around your body with healthy eating habits, fluid intake and adequate sleep. Add to these fundamental elements of parenthood basic medical and dental treatment in accordance with the requirements ofNeeds of the child and you need the first group to raise healthy children. .
- When this need is met a child feels a deep sense of security
E-Promotion
This is the "soft love", the children have so often experience, the hugs, tickles, giggles, praise, known as' atta-boy or atta-girl ", expressed orally and many kisses of unconditional acceptance, such as" I do not love you no matter what, "especially when a child can be confronted, try a difficult time, or to recoverfrom a painful experience or rejection.
- When this need is met a child feels a deep sense of security
E-Equip
This is the "tough love" that most simply expressed by the word "not. When a child begins to respect their parents and really listening, counseling, advice and guidance of mom and dad, if the process of becoming equipped with an incredible character traits such as self-discipline, self-control, responsibility and an understandingBoundaries, consequences and taking responsibility for their behavior by sources to the authority in their lives. (As parents, grandparents, teachers and law enforcement agencies.)
- When this need is met a child develop confidence and strength
D-Development
Perhaps the most overlooked element in this process because many parents forget that their role as a mum or dad do not always. The goal is to raise children, to become strong young man, and thenSimply launch them out into the world and let them go live their own lives. (Or as it says a popular song lyric: "Give them roots and give them wings").
This area includes coaching, leadership, training, creation of learning experiences and offers courses, seminars or events which promote the growth and development of the fundamental strengths of the child to the man or woman, they were designed to be.
-When this need is met a child early success
Now, let's get personal - if yougutsy, score yourself on a scale of 1-25, (25 is the highest) in each category to see how you do as a parent. Most parents have a great job in the N and E of the formula, but then begin to fall from the second email and often get so busy that they never had much at all with the last part D of the formula. If a child has provided too many things for her, she is not dependent on the route that ripen fall too far behind their peers in terms of making independent thinkers and self canyoung adults.
Once the gaps in your own parenting style, I urge you to work positive action in relation to your approach to parenting, you can take better results, use with your children identified in this phase of life. If you are one of the four key areas that will be achieved at 12 or below, you may want to do a little more to help certain way to discover your child your best in these categories. If you are under a 5 in a particular category, you may want to look for someprofessional guidance to maximize your potential as a parent in every area of life your child.
Fight back against the two biggest obstacles to increasing the strong children
Here are are a few other important strategies that help you get the most out of your children every day since I'll be among the best tools and resources to help your son or daughter to want to have their best can. Do this by overcoming the two biggest obstacles that tend to steal "your children away from the influence of parents.These categories are peers and the media. Solve this by using the strategies below to build closer relationships with their colleagues, then learn how to make positive connections in their selection of media and, finally, aggressive, based on the natural strengths of your child.
1) Following a peer with similar values.
Battle back from negative peers by guiding your child's peers with similar personality and similar family background, and then you help your child relationshipwith positive peers. Sheila and I have postponed vacation, holidays and other planned family reunion, make sure that our children were able to experience a healthy relationship at all possible experience. Does that mean we are "meddling" behind the scenes to bet a more favorable outcome Get-You! Remember, it only takes a good friend in childhood or the turbulent teenage years, which may persuade you to make a bad decision or a bad friend who you can take. Peers have more powerthan parents in various stages, so take every action you can point to positive role models and to building healthy relationships today.
Peers are the # 1 influencer in the middle and high schools so if you're not sure about how healthy children for your kids to get in touch, please remember to check out their friends from school or church groups sport, or maybe your child could be a great combination of someone they might respond to a specialist camp, as YMCASwimming, boy scouts and girl scouts or specialty camps such as Joe White's incredibly effective sports program called Camp Kanakuk.
2) access to the media with a positive message that they really relate to.
Find great films to give a life lesson, (films such as "Facing the Giants" or "Meet the Robinsons"), powerful songs or enjoy TV shows that you an important message - like FOX Teacher's Hit TV Show " you smarter than a 5th Grader, "which is a combination of" Who is aMillionaire "and" Jeopardy. "It is a fun way to connect as a family together, because it shows that are very bright 5th graders often as cleverer than" average adult in academic subjects, it is a fun way way, the whole family involved in learning about the basic facts of science, mathematics or literature.
Another strategy used to be considered, such as adding or TiVo DVR (which is an add-on to your cable service and may require a new box), because this technology allows you to automatically save thePrograms that you want and save time by fast forwarding past commercials. This also gives you the opportunity, regardless of TV shows pick your family can benefit, they may be things that enable them to monitor education and inform when it most convenient, and gives you total control over the advertisements they are exposed to parental are.
Check out other great resources to help you find the best media fit for your child as the parents Television Council. http://www.parentstv.org/ whichNational Institute on Media and the Family, http://www.mediafamily.org/ The Dove Foundation or the music, movies and TV reports) (, http://www.dove.org/.
3) The personality is the third factor, which is available at your child's passion, (starch), as early as possible.
If someone in love with the piano, diving, golf, martial arts, small businesses, movie, cartoon, tennis, skiing, newspaper, art, baseball, football, volunteering in the rescue operation, or FFA, it gives themvaluable experience in the areas that are most suitable for them and protects them from the dark side of the culture in the old adage, "Idle hands are the devil's workshop."
I can still vividly remember how my parents led me to do during my mid-teens with searching for opportunities for me to cooperate with media stations. Created my first experience on WDBO-AM, WFTV-TV9/ABC, WTLN-AM WMFE-TV24/PBS and a love for communication through the media, who lives on that day.Media communication experiences in my mid-teen years led to a desire to learn, as a speaker on the accession to the Speech Club, Toastmasters International, (www.toastmasters.org/) after high school. My parents as seeds planted during my childhood, which become in a lifetime of positive career experiences working in the field of communication by the grace of God.
(Side note: If your child struggles with school work or test anxiety, I recommend the insightfulBook by Dr. Mel Levine at the incredible challenges faced by children during the middle school years until graduation, "Ready or Not, Here comes life" or the wealth of information on learning style differences among his excellent site, [http:// www . AllKindsofMinds.com], which shows how to make the most of the children who used not fit the "cookie cutter" system of training in many areas. One size can all flip-flops do not fit to work with children, so keep looking until youthe role models and resources to help you, your child) are most helpful.
Once you know what your child is passion and strengths - then use actively in building confidence through the development of these strengths by studying the lives of positive role models your child can identify themselves, or by finding private lessons to them on best help to contribute their skills, talents and natural abilities, or summer camp. For example, if your child loves the sea to look at Camp Sea World,where children and parents really do overnight camping in the park next to the killer, or when a child is older they could attend a week long intensive programs offered by Sea World in the summer months and then come home and tell you everything they learned how to stretch their wings to fly away from home for a little while at this stage begin to finally step into the world as a confident young person.
Positive action now from the sowing of the sizetake in your son or daughter and then pour and the development of the seed of your child in NEED is a powerful way to put your kids to win, and if they do experience success early in life, so you! Do what you can help your children with the NEED formula because the clock is ticking and you get back any time. Remove any roadblock that keeps you from the best Mom or Dad that you can be sure and do it today!
Listen to the words of noted author CS Lewis, thesaid: "Good and evil both increase at compound interest. That is why the little decisions you and I make every day are so very important." This is your time to step up to make a positive difference in the lives of your children, so I hope that you will be challenged, to meet their needs in a new way. Who knows one day I will can rejoice with you when your child early success as a result of your influence as the most important person on the planet to share and exchange experiences. Betweennow, and "Start Time" - know that they are not alone in the journey and that there are people that you past the rough spots with your kids and even more so than who your son or daughter early success in the future help will be cheering you planted the seeds in their lives today.
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